Steps to a Good Marriage in the Lord

be patient... spend personal time together getting to know each other emotionally and intellectually (not sexually or physically …

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Steps to a Good Marriage in the Lord
A good marriage is worth waiting for and doing things the right way. Be patient and trust God.

As a husband of one wife and father of 7 married since 1994, and together since 1991, having had many conversations with people successfully married for up to 50 years, I have gleaned some important insights into marriage. The "steps" below are pretty basic, but if a person reads, and learns from them, they can avoid many troubles.

Step 1 - Don't have sex with people you are not married to

Step 2 - Take your time and don't get married because he/she is cute... but because the person is a person with virtue and moral character and because they truly want to commit their life to a loving partnership with you

Step 3 - Make sure that you are not deceiving yourself to "be happy"

Step 4 - Make sure you understand marriage is for life; through sickness and health, through poverty and riches, through bad times and good, till death do you part

Step 5 - Pray to see if this is truly God's will (consider fasting while praying - it builds character and can help you focus more on the answer from God)

Step 6 - If all of the above are in place... be patient... spend personal time together getting to know each other emotionally and intellectually (not sexually or physically since that only clouds the mind and deceives the heart). Discuss goals, ambitions, what you are willing to sacrifice in order to have a loving and healthy family, understand the responsibilities involved, and the aspect of being self-sacrificing for others

Step 7 - Be sure you are making the right decision and that the person you are thinking of being with is truly the one - listen to wise Godly council even if you don't like what they are saying - pray

Step 8 - if everything above checks out, set the date, remain pure and chaste until the day you are married - the time waiting will demonstrate character and will build anticipation and enhance the honeymoon

Step 9 - (Don't skip any of the previous steps) Get married understanding that there is no out and that you are committed to making this marriage work no matter what it takes. Recognize that marriage is not, as some say, 50/50, it is 100/100. That way when one is weak the other one can pick the other up and vice versa.

Step 10 - Pray, Communicate, pray, communicate, pray, communicate, repeat until one of you is no longer alive.  Love, honour, obey, cherish, build up, encourage, respect, enjoy, truly LIVE... no matter what level of income you have, don't fight over money (it kills marriages).


Jim Blake

All glory goes to the living God, maker of the heavens and the earth, for He alone is worthy of all glory and honor and praise. I consider the sufferings of this age not worthy to be compared to what is to come for those who place their faith in the King of kings and persevere in faith, day by day, until the end.

For as the heaven is high above the earth, so great is his mercy toward them that fear him.

As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.

Like as a father pitieth his children, so the Lord pitieth them that fear him.

For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.

As for man, his days are as grass: as a flower of the field, so he flourisheth.

For the wind passeth over it, and it is gone; and the place thereof shall know it no more.

But the mercy of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting upon them that fear him, and his righteousness unto children's children;

To such as keep his covenant, and to those that remember his commandments to do them.

Psalm 103:11-18

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